Night Angel, I want to do more in the bedroom than a two minute quick session with my babe. But unfortunately I just can't last the distance. Could you please give me a few ideas on how to get more out of our time together? NeedMore

NeedMore, well to start with, it's time you worked on your foreplay time because that would mean you and your babe would be able to experience more pleasures and sensations when you are together. Sensual massages could be shared, touching, kissing, playing, and some oral sex for her would work wonders. It doesn't always have to be a quick two minute session. Giving her an orgasm before you have intercourse is one way of giving her as much pleasure as you can. Don't rush those moments and you can both enjoy them as much as each other.

After five years of marriage, my wife isn't taking pains with her appearance like she used to. While I appreciate the fact that she trusts me to see her barefoot and in sweats, and I love her as much as ever, I do miss the days when she'd make all that effort just to look nice for me. When she does dress up these days, maybe once a month, she looks better than ever. How do I bring up the fact that I miss the girl I used to date without starting World War III? Jamie I.

Jamie a woman always likes something nice and special and a gift certificate so she can go and buy some nice clothes, dressy clothes. Go to a place that doesn't sell 'sweats'. Include if you can a certificate to a hairdresser and a beauty salon. She can get a fantastic makeover that may make her feel like a real woman again. Keep telling her how beautiful she looks and help her to see that by making time for her. Go through the photo albums and when you see pictures of her in clothes that you loved seeing her in, mention that, mention she looks good and you'd love to see her wear those clothes again.

I'd love to hear how you do and what worked if it did... Night Angel.

I keep hearing about kegel exercises being great. Supposedly you have better orgasms? Is this true? How do I get started doing kegels? Also, a friend said that men can do them too. So, how about it? Does it help them, too? Mina S., Adelaide.

Mina, kegel excercises are supposed to help incredibly not just with having better orgasms. Most men and women should do this type of excercise because it is a pelvic floor excercise which also helps with ballder control and it strengthens the pelvic floor muscles. Perhaps I have always performed pelvic floor (kegel) exercises because it tightens up the muscles that I often use. It helps me have fantastic orgasms and you'd be surprised what happens when you are having intercourse with your man. When he is about to ejaculate (cum) and you tighten those muscles, his orgasm will be more intense than he was expecting it to be.

And yes it does also help men because the kegel excercises increase the bloodflow to the genital area, it helps strengthen and tone the muscles that are involved in ejaculation which means that if they work at it, it can help them control the timing of their ejaculations. It also helps them with other medical issues such as bladder control as they get older.

Mina, i'm sure you have heard of pelvic floor excercises and do it quite often when you go to the bathroom. All you need to do is sit on the toilet and in the middle of your stream stop and start the stream several times. Once you learn how to tighten and untighten your PC muscle you will be able to use the Kegel excercise during sexual intercourse and perhaps even enjoy more intense orgasms. Give it a try and let me know how you get on. Night Angel.

My girlfriend was constantly very persistent in wanting to know how many other girls I had slept with. I told her how many as close as I could really count over the 14 years I have been sexually active, about 12 before her. She says I am only her third guy in that same time span and it sort of disgusts her that I have slept with that many girls. Are the majority of females that concerned about previous partner count or am I just hooked up with one of the few? Donald B.

Hi Donald B.. I feel for you. I know a lot of men who have slept with numerous women before they finally met the girl that is right for them. Perhaps you need to tell your girlfriend, that it doesn't matter how many girls you have slept with, the most important thing is that you have found the person who you feel comfortable with and you'd like to experiences lots of things with. To do that she needs to look to the future not to the past and that way you can both enjoy those experiences together. Night Angel

This is so frustrating! My girlfriend doesn't fake orgasms. She just doesn't have them very often. She enjoys sex, I know she does, but she just doesn't come when I have sex with her. She says she plays with herself later and gets off. This just sounds weird to me. Is this normal? Am I doing something wrong? She says I'm not, that she's satisfied with our sex life and has always been this way, but I wonder. Can women really enjoy sex without orgasms? Worried in Illinois

Hey please don't worry! You aren't doing anything wrong at all. All women are built differently and women can enjoy sex without having an orgasm during the times you spend together. Many women in this world can not and do not experience orgasms for one reason or another. I understand that when she tells you that she plays with herself later and brings herself off it's because the build up is good but actually getting there needs for her to be focused on her playing with her clit. A lot of women cannot experience vaginal orgasms but focusing on her clit will work wonders.

If you really want her to have an orgasm with you, instead of focusing on your needs first, perhaps it's time to focus on her. A nice passage, and a lot of oral with you aiming your attention on her clit may actually work. But don't rush her, if you rush her she will not be able to experience an orgasm. Night Angel.

I have been with about six different girls. now none of them were virgins. Have had oral sex with all of them just about every time we got together. Between the six girls two of them had very floppy swollen cunt lips. Does the ones with the swollen and loose lips mean they have engaged in more intercourse then the others? Timmy T.

Timmy T, just because a girl has floppy swollen loose lips doesn't mean that they have engaged in sexual intercourse more than others. Each girl is born differently just like guys are born differently. We all have different parts and we are all
made differently. Some girls have floppy swollen lips while others have hardly any lips there at all.

I am a virgin and strongly believe that a girl's memory of her first time should be very special and affectionate. I have
prolonged my relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now and since I am now eighteen he is very anxious in us having intercourse for the first time together, he is also a virgin. Since we are both inexperienced at intercourse I don’t want my first time to be like what I hear most girls say it is like. I don’t want a quick bang and it's over with. How can I keep this from happening? I want a passionate remembrance to keep for the rest of my life.PassionSeeker

PassionSeeker, if your boyfriend wants to keep you as his girlfriend then he will listen to your needs. You need to sit down with him and tell how you would like to experience your first time. Perhaps because it is the first time for both of you, you need to go online and look at the different types of foreplay you can both experience together and get an idea of what you both want to try. GOing slowly and with a lot of touching and playing, kissing and caressing will make your time together a lot more enjoyable. It will also possibly make your first time one that isn't too painful, but it can be pleasurable.

My boyfriend and I enjoy intercourse tremendously. We are in our early twenties and both of our stamina is exceptionally
strong, we make love for hours at a time. The only problem I have is I have gotten where I have to use a lubricant after a long period to try and keep our fantastic sex enjoyable for me. I get very dry after so long, even with multiple orgasms from both of us. Why does my vagina dry up like this? Paula T.

PaulaT, please don't panic. Sometimes women just can't go all day and night without having some lubrication to help us, no matter how many orgasms you experience. It's very normal and if you don't keep your vagina or your ass moist then the friction is going to make it hurt. I always keep a waterbased lubricant handy for those times when their air or the constant friction dries up all the moisture. Enjoy sex and keep on making love for hours and then some and with the water based lubricant on hand, you can go for a very long time. If the lube gets sticky, apply more or spray a little water over your pussy and keep going. Have fun and keep those multiple orgasms happening. Night Angel.

My girlfriend wants to learn to squirt, and obviously I think that'd be really cool. She says she's tried it in the past once or twice, but has never really put her mind to it and tried. Any tips for turning my baby into Old Faithful? I'd love to let her cum all over me the way I do all over her! EagerAlex

Hi Alex... you chose one of my favorite topic... well there are lots of things to do with sexual encounters that are incredible and I love them all. But squirting is something very special. Sure you can see lots of squirting videos on the net but the real thing is an experience I hope most girls will have the chance to enjoy. First up, during the day have her drink lots of water. I don't mean she has to guzzle it down, but having a full bladder certainly helps. You can help her, either by using your fingers or use a toy that is shaped right so that it gently rubs against her g-spot and lots of waterbased lube and remember to be patient.

My friend says that there's a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. I have plenty of orgasms, but I don't think I can tell the difference. Can you settle this argument for us? Just Wondering Jane

Jane, your friend is right. There is a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. A clitoral orgasm is where focus is mainly on your clit. It's a very intense orgasm and feels incredible. If you have experienced oral sex, partners often focus on the clit when they lick, which results in a clitoral orgasm. A vaginal orgasm is where there is no contact with the clit, instead the sensations created with vaginal penetration can trigger an orgasm that can also be intense. All orgasms are incredible. Some women can only experience a clitoral orgasm, while others can experience vaginal or both. I hope that helps, Night Angel.