My wife and I have been in quite a few threesomes with other woman. We both get a lot of pleasure from this arrangement, but I’m curious about having a threesome with another guy in with us. But she won't hear of it, she doesn’t want to be with another guy because she doesn’t think she can control the situation with two of us on her. How can I ease her into this kind of relationship? PaulN.

Paul, all you can do is wait till the time is right. Or you can sit down and ask her what she is afraid of... perhaps instead of suggesting that she may like two guys enjoying her at the same time, suggest to her that it doesn't really mean that you and he will be pentrating her at the same time. Your wife needs to understand that she is the one who is in control and sets the guidelines as to how a threesome that includes another guy is enjoyed. If you word it right and she understands that she sets the boundaries and the three of you discuss this before it takes place, then you never know, your wife may agree to a threesome where another guy is invited to join in.

I’m in college and have been dating quite a variety of girls for the last two years. For some reason I can not get any of
them to let me anally screw them. I always heard that some females love to get anal, but can’t seem to find the right group. Is this just some sort of myth, do females get any enjoyment from being anally taken? AnalQuest

Anal Request... stop while you are ahead. Sometimes guys just take it for granted that a girl loves anal. For some reason you appear to have taken that some girls love to get anal as 'all girls love to get anal' which is not quite right. Sure there are some that really love anal and I personally am one of them. I love anal play. But it takes time to build up to that sort of playtime and it also takes trust. If the girls that you are seeing don't feel comfortable with you especially if your request if for them to let you take their anal cherry then you really haven't taken time out to give them pleasures and to
make them feel comfortable with you.

Some girls like to build up to anal first because anal sex can and does hurt at first. And even after several anal sex sessions it can hurt until a girl gets comfortable with the size of a guy's cock / penis. It's not a myth that some girls love to get anal and yes females do get a lof of enjoyment through anal sex. You have to be patient and pay attention to their sexual needs before you demand that they give you their ass. Besides, if they feel it is going to hurt when you take their anal cherry, perhaps you need to let them fuck your ass first. Be patient, let the girl get to know you first, pay attention to her sexual needs before you even think of asking for anal sex.

My new girlfriend claims she has an orgasm while giving me a blow job. She even shakes and moans like she does when she has one any other time. Is she just playing me along or can a woman have an orgasm without any physical contact? JohnH.

Hey JOhn! I know it's hard to believe but a woman can get turned on giving a man a blowjob. It's just like a man can climax without any physical contact with his penis especially when he is really turned on. A woman, can get very wet, her clit can tingle and pulsate and it is only a matter of time when she squeezes her legs together and her orgasm can happen. So no I don't believe she would be playing you along. Yes an orgasm can happen without physical contact. She doesn't have to rely on you touching her or her fingers playing with her clit. I hope that helps and John, if your girlfriend gets turned on and climaxes just by giving you a blowjob, you should feel fantastic knowing that while she is pleasuring you, she gets off too.

I have been dating a girl for close to six months now and we get along exceptionally well. Two months ago we went to bed together for the first time and the night was fantastic. But we have not been intimate since. What can I do to get her back in bed? Hot as Hell

Hot as Hell, perhaps it's time to ask her out or possibly invite her to spend a weekend with you a nice resort or something where you can both learn a little more about each other. Suggest that you really would love to get to her know her more and having time together will be fantastic. Don't make it look like you just want to take her away for a dirty weekend, tell her about the moments you can share together, nice meals, a few drinks and to relax together. Perhaps ask her what she would like to do. I'd love to hear what happens and maybe from this you will establish whether she wants to take that intimacy one step further.

My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost two years now and I've always thought that I had satisfied her but I
discovered the other day when I was going down on her that she experienced her first ever orgasm. Does that mean she has been faking her orgasms since I first met her and if so why would she do that? David

David, I can understand that it would be a shock to discover that your girlfriend has just experienced her first orgasm. It is possible she was faking it but just because she was faking it doesn't mean she didn't enjoy sexual relations with you. If she didn't enjoy it then she wouldn't have sex with you. David, there are many women in the world who can't experience an orgasm and sometimes when the time is right and a girl learns to relax and the sensations are right then out of the blue she will suddenly discover how to enjoy an orgasm.

It took me years before I was comfortable enough to experience an orgasm. Sure I'd had sex hundreds of times and I enjoy sex so much but to me giving someone else pleasure was enough. But now I love my orgasms and I am sure your girlfriend has learnt to relax and enjoy them too. The best thing you can do is feel priviliged she has experienced her first orgasm with you and don't think about the past because you have so much pleasure to give her and her you. Enjoy her orgasms together. Night Angel.

Why are condoms shown during sexual intercourse in porn movies but not during blowjobs that occur before or after the intercourse? peterpenis

Hi peterpenis, it all depends on who is in the movie and who the producer is. A lot of the time many of the people who are found in the porn movies have to undergo a series of sexual health tests and most cannot perform without that certificate. Unfortunately without actually talking to the people who are
involved in these movies, I can't really answer that question. However I do know that a lot of people like to see a girl barebacking a guy and at the end the cum shot wouldn't be the same if there was a condom in the way. I hope that helps..

Can a man or woman masturbate too much and does masturbating cause any ill effects like going blind or hairy palms?jakeamany

Jakeamany, masturbating is certainly very normal and men and women can masturbate as much as they like. No you certainly won't go blind or develop hairy palms, but I have been told by several people that after they masturbated for some time they found they had lost a little sensitivity. This was the same for both men and women. A few women told me their clit had developed a lack of sensitivity so when a guy licked her it would take a long time for anything to happen. Same as for the guys, they found that they couldn't climax normally without changing what they were doing. Too much playing around left them hanging for too long and they had trouble climaxing. Apart from that, I'm yet to see anyone going blind or getting hairy palms from masturbating.

I’m 32 and been married for six years now. My wife and I enjoy sex with each other at least three times a week. Why do I still always have the urge to masturbate two to three times a day? In the shower every time and even in the restroom at work! It’s like I never get fully satisfied. Rickied.

Rickied, your sexual urges are very strong. Well from what I have read here they are. What happens if you resist those urges? Perhaps you should try that because when you and your wife do have sex with each other the orgasms you experience will be a lot more intense. However you aren't alone in the world. A lot of men and women need to have orgasm 2, 3 and 4 times a day. It's perfectly normal. If you find it a problem, then talk to a therapist or try and resist the temptation when you can and save it for a wild time with your wife. Sorry I can't help you much more than that... Night Angel.

I just have a short questions today. I was curious to find out how big a man’s erect penis, fist, sex toy or other object can women comfortably fit into their vaginas?

Samson97, that is a very interesting question and because it is so open it is hard to answer. Because all women are different and while one woman can take one size, another woman can't. So one size really doesn't fit all in this case. Not every woman can experience fisting so in that case it may not matter how big the man's fist is, it just won't fit. In this case it depends on the woman and only trying different things will answer that question for you.

My husband of eighteen years is really getting frustrated because I won't let him do anal with me. I've experienced anal a few times back when I was dating and even I've let him take me anally twice since we were married. But I really find it not that nice now and I’m afraid he will always want it if I give in and let him do it with me. What should I do to stop his demanding? He says he will go get it somewhere else if I don't give him my ass! TinaBee.

TinaBee, there is something I hate and it's men that are demanding you give them something that you don't like doing. Husband or not, I'm to say this but no man should demand or make threats the way he is doing. I wonder if he would love you to take him anally. I bet his thoughts may be different then if he didn't like it.

Personally I would sit down with him and tell him why you don't like anal sex. Explain to him every detail about what it is you find you don't like about it and why you don't want to do it. I think you need to ask yourself too why you don't like doing it and what happened to make you think that. Anal sex can be pleasurable if done right. I'm assuming you had a couple of bad experiences and you need to think back to what happened or what didn't happen when you had anal sex. As for him going somewhere else to get it... I'm not sure how you can stop that because it's almost like a threat to try and persuade you into giving him something you don't feel comfortable with. It's almost like emotional and mental blackmail. Talk to him, without getting upset and tell him that you will not be bullied into doing something you can't do.