I fantasize about being tied up and totally ravished by a male. I’m afraid to tell this to my husband because he is a straight forward lover and I’m not sure he would go for it. Should I approach him with my fantasy and take a chance of never living it. How should I approach him with this? Silentfantasy

My suggested is to fantasize all you like about being ravished by a male especially when you are tied up. Being dominated is such an interesting lifestyle and fantasies can come true. I can't tell you the best way to approach your husband about wanting to be tied up and ravished by a male but you could talk to him about your fantasy and his too. Maybe he has a fantasy that he would like to share with you. Introduce some silk ties or leather binds and tell him that you would like to have your hands tied while he makes love to you. Encourage him to pleasure you like he has never done before. Or perhaps find a movie online that shows what you would like to try in your fantasy and take it from there. You never know, it may turn him on. Night Angel.

My fantasies are very dark. Bondage, verbal abuse, sex with multiple guys... it frightens me. I would never want to do these things in real life, I would never want to be anyone's slave or allow them to hurt me, but I feel guilty for fantasizing about it. At the same time, I can't stop myself! Are these sorts of fantasies normal? Miss Shadow from Seattle.

Miss shadow, many women have similar fantasies as yourself. I can understand that it would frighten you because it is something that you would never do in real life. The thought of men dominating you, verbally abusing you and having sex with multiple guys can be a huge turn on. Don't feel guilty for fantasizing about these things. After all they are only fantasy and it is only you that can turn those fantasies into reality. Night Angel.

The idea of having sex with multiple men really appeals to me, but at the same time I'm frightened of what might happen if I really tried to do it. Can you give me any advice for doing it safely? Hilde the Horny

Hilde, lots of women have fantasies where they have sex with multiple men. They fantasize about group sex or as part of a
gangbang. Of course there is plenty to be worried about when you experience this for the first time, but there are ways to overcome that fear and put your mind to rest when you want to experience it. First up if you have some guys in mind the best thing to do is talk to them and tell them your limitations. Tell them what you want to experience and always leave yourself open to saying no.

Always remember too that if you wan to play it safe, you set the rules and ensure the guys have condoms and plenty of lube. This will make your time more enjoyable as well as playing it safe. If you have trouble finding multiple men, talk to one of the local escort agencies to see if they have men available to help you live your fantasy.

What are the most common fantasies? Do men and women fantasize about the same things? My friends and I all have what we feel like are "strange" fantasies, but the thing is, we almost all have very similar ones (multiple guys, bondage, sex in public, watching people fuck). If this is true, they can't be that rare! I think it's a cover-up. What do you think? SharonC.

Hi SharonC, in answer to the first part of your question, the most common fantasies for men included having sex with an existing partner, giving and receiving oral and having sex with more than one person. Males also fantasize about being dominant, being passive and submissive, they may like to relive previous experiences, watch others making love and fantasize about trying out new sexual experiences. While for women, the inclusion of her husband or current partner in her fantasies is common. She may like to give and receive oral sex, epxeriencing sex with a new partner and some women have a romantic time in an exotic location. She may also like doing something forbidden, she is submissive, she loves being found irresistable and loves reliving sexual pleasures she has already experienced.

Your fantasies are quite normal although they may appear strange to you because you haven't had the chance to experience those fantasies in real life. Watching people fuck and sex in public is a huge turn on for many, many people and fantasies can include your own thoughts and wishes. No, it's not a cover-up. There are many rare fantasies and what you are experiencing certainly isn't rare among men and women. I hope that helps SharonC and one day I hope your fantasy becomes reality. Night Angel.

My partner says she never has fantasies, but I know she does. I'm honest with her about mine, and I'm afraid she thinks I'll reject her for hers. How can I get her to open up to me about what she really wants – or even just wants to think about – in bed? Kelly K.

Hi Kelly, fantasies are incredible things really and a lot of people like to hide those fantasies from others. Sometimes it's hard to explain why people do that but they do and even though you say you won't reject hers, she may be experiencing fantasies that are a little different or out of the ordinary. She may be a little embarrassed by her fantasy or she may just want to keep it private for now. Don't think of it as keeping secrets from you because she really isn't.

It's just that many people don't discuss their fantasies because that is all they are. If you are interested in finding out what she wants to think about in bed, ask her what she loves doing or what different things she's like to experience. Give her a love token as a gift ... this token would be to experience one of her fantasies or this token may allow her to use you to fulfill a fantasy. If she does take up the option of using her token, you need to have an open mind to all things she wants to try. I hope this helps you find out a little more about your partner's fantasies. Night Angel.

I've always had a fantasy about trying out sex with another man. I'm happily married and as straight as they come, but I
can't stop wondering what it would be like. Is this normal? Am I a closeted homosexual? Should I try to make my fantasy a reality? Help! -- Worried William

Hey Worried William, stop worrying, ok... First up many men are curious. They are possibly as curious to know what it would be like to have time with another male just like you are curious. I don't believe you are a closeted homosexual and if you are that curious I believe you should try and make your fantasy a reality. If you want to keep this private you could try seeing a male escort. Tell him your needs and why you would like to try and I am sure that person will help you live your fantasy. Start slowly and tell him what you feel you want to do but leave the option to stop there if you start to feel uncomfortable. I hope you enjoy your fantasy and if you get to experience another male, stop by and let us know how you went. Night Angel.

Night Angel, I've seen movies where bosses take control of their secretaries, well I am one of those secretaries and my boss is a madam who loves to dominate. She has threatened to bring her strap-on in if I don't get her work to her on time. Is it natural to fantasize about my boss? Because I do.. Quentibach

Quentibach, I love office sex fantasies. And it is very natural to fantasize about your boss especially when she places you in a submissive position. I'm not sure if you are already have fantasies but they are very natural and if you ever get the chance to live those fantasies, enjoy them, but don't push your fantasies onto others.

Hi Night Angel, I have this fascination for men. I dream of them sometimes but not in a gay situation. I dream of my girl and I having wild sex and this guy joins us. But he doesn’t just pleasure my girl he sucks my cock too and it feels good. In a way I am curious… could this be my fantasy slipping into my dreams? Samson97

Samson97, it is not unusual for guys to be curious or even bi-curious. Bisexual guys like both men and they like women. I know quite a few bisexual guys who live a normal life with their girlfriends, spouses or partners and at the same time they enjoy sexual pleasures with a guy. Quite often those moments are shared with their partners.

In answer to your question, yes… your fantasy could definitely slip into your dreams and sometimes those dreams will one day become a reality.

Hi Night Angel. My name is Paul and I was wondering if it is normal for a guy to fantasize and would you say that most fantasies come true?

Hi Paul it’s very natural for guys to fantasize just as women do too. Fantasies can be very healthy, they can be very stimulating and sometimes they will be harder than you may experience in real life. There are many different types of fantasies and it depends on the type of fantasy and whether the opportunity arises for them to come true.

For some guys and girls those fantasies do come true, while others remain a fantasy. Either way they are all a huge turn on.